This is a tough one for me. Its like my other fetish I have. I mean, both of fetishes startes around 7-8 years old. Problem is, I didnt know why I had those feelings. my sleepy fetish didnt come up as much untill about a year ago, but the other was hard to deal with. Thinking your a freak for what brings you comfort. I dont really want to say what it is for worry of retribution from it (I can reasure eveyone its nothing to do with pedophilia) But anyway I am getting way off topic:P I have excepted bothing to my life, and I have met allot of nice people that support me when I am down. I say I am happy wth both but I wonder if things be better without them.

Somewhere else on this website I have previously posted the information that I am married and have three beautiful daughters in their twenties. I haven't heard many of the rest of this audience saying similar things. I wonder how many of you who read this are married with children? I think it makes a difference, a big difference in this "fetish" discussion, whether one is happily married with children. And I like to call it a "fantasy", not a fetish. "Fetish" reminds me of something abnormal, like a man putting on women's clothing, or worse, enjoying child pornography. My wife knows I fantasize about Wonder Woman, and I'm telling the truth when I say, she thinks it's positively silly. She told me recently "You're a grown man. Put away childish things." I believe looking at comic books for superheroine KO's, unconscious carries, and bondage has the potential to be quite harmful to the individual -- mainly if the individual allows the fantasy to become a replacement for normal sex, with a normal female, leading to babies being born. I believe the first and foremost reason we have sex organs is to procreate the species. To do that, is to be "normal". Recreational use of our sex organs (for not procreation purposes) is OK only so far as the recreational activities do not become a total substitute for a normal sex life leading to children being born. Those who prefer their fantasies (or fetishes) to the real act with a real woman are doing serious harm to themselves, their loved ones, and society.

Ok, I see your viewpoint. In the "real world", this fetish would seem rather silly. The act of spending your time looking through comics and managing a collection of fetish scenes is also very strange. But consistently contend that: I am not a normal person. I mean think about it: I am pretty much the only person on Earth who manages a site like sleepycomics.com. Out of 6 billion people, I am the only one with the time, passion and determination to pursue this endeavor.

I don't think I am doing harm to myself though. In fact, by having this hobby I think I am doing myself good. I have something to live for now, something that excites me, energizes me. I am truly happy running this site.

Am I harmful to soceity? I don't think so either. I work hard and contribute plenty to society. But society right now doesn't really know I exist (at least in terms of sleepycomics), and I really hope it stays that way.

Yep I loved my fetish, ever since I watched She-Ra of how she always get put to sleep by sleep gas, stun beam, or sleep spell. She looked so beautiful when put to sleep. Thats when I have my fetish.

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Let me try to restate what I am saying. The reason we - and all creatures from squirrels to puppies to whales -- have sexual organs and sexual urges is so our species (human beings) can be reproduced. I say that's why God gave us sex organs in the first place, but even an atheist can understand and accept the fact that sex is primarily for reproducing -- would you and I or anyone else for that matter even be here today if this were not true? Obviously in a free society we are free to do what we like with our sexual organs -- so long as we do it in private and it does not harm anyone else. But what I am saying is that males and females are designed to mate and to reproduce. It's a basic principle of all life. The human race would come to a complete end if everyone stopped reproducing, isn't that self-evident? Now to my point about sexual fantasies. If sexual fantasizing becomes so intense and important in one's life that it totally and completely replaces a man's desire to marry a woman and have sex with her, (which is how one reproduces the species), then the fantasy is harmful to that man, that woman, that marriage, and ultimately to society. And if all men and women preferred their sexual fantasies to actual interaction and actual acts of mating with each other, then the human race would come to an end, and that would not be good. The fantasy/fetish is only helpful if we do not allow it to interfere with mating, which is essential to our survival. It's OK to be different, or "not normal", but it is self-destructive to foster and promote behavior that can threaten to eliminate the reproduction of the species. Where would we all be if this happened to everyone. Do you see what I'm saying???

Sorry, I have got to add one more thing. And I say this as a husband, a dad and a family man. I totally enjoy sleepycomics.com and I totally applaud you Red, and all your helpers, for establishing and maintaining this exciting and stimulating website. In my life, I have made my fantasy a pasttime, a side-line, kind of like a hobby. I have not let it interfere with my normal sex life, or with my desire to procreate with my wife and have children. Some men enjoy NFL football, others play pool or golf, I fantasize with good girl art. We're all different. But reproducing the species is basic and fundamental -- not everyone will do it, but no one would be alive today if our parents did not do it, and future generations are depending on this generation to "keep the drive alive".

3 cheers for sleepycomics.com !!!

Thanks Paul, but I don't really think you have to worry about our species not living on. The people who let their fantasies overtake them (like me), represent a minority of the human population.

I posted this yesterday, but somehow it did not "take". A wise man once said: 'YOU CAN TELL IF AN ACTION OR A DEED IS GOOD OR BAD, HELPFUL OR HARMFUL, RIGHT OR WRONG BY ASKING AND ANSWERING THIS TEST QUESTION: 'IF EVERYONE ON EARTH DID THIS DEED OR ACTION, WOULD THE END RESULTS FOR THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE BE GOOD OR BAD, HELPFUL OR HARMFUL." (John Stuart Mill, 1806 - 1873, philosopher, member of British parliament, and University President). All I'm trying to say is, our good girl art fantasy should not become a total and complete substitute for real sex with a real woman -- a good result for the majority of us could not come from that. Our fantasy should be a supplement to copulation, and not cause the elimination of it. We should not prefer our fantasy to the "real thing". I do not think I have anything more I can say on this subject, except to say: "Thank you Red, for this great website, and for this forum which deals with real issues which are important to our lives." Three cheers for sleepycomics.com

The funny thing is, this odd paraphilia has enhanced my life in the sense that, "I don't need a real live girl" to satisfy my sexual needs. I find that actually quite liberating. A lot of people are stuck in the "I must have regular sex/ I must have a partner" mentality, to the point where they make all sorts of personal compromises just to be part of a couple, even if they are not suited for marriage/couplehood. Women put up with abusive husbands, men put up with vengeful wives, because they think, "This is what I am supposed to do -- I must conform to society", etc.

I think that attitiude is just silly. Not that I have never been in a relationship; I have, and was an adequate boyfriend in some respects. And I have known plenty of people in happy, stable marriages, and I think that Marriage, on the whole, is a wonderful institution for those so inclined. What I don't like, is the "one-size-fits-all" mentality -- the idea that everyone needs to get married, to procreate, etc.

Quite some time ago, I read a paper that postulated that the growth of incidence of paraphilias may be linked to a "saturation of population", or something like that. Not everyone who is theoretically physically able to copulate/procreate is going to do so, and that is probably a very good thing at this stage, with roughly seven billion people on the planet, straining our natural resources.