For those of us with wives, girlfriends, husbands, boyfriends and even the singles among us that have sex every now and then, i'd like to know if this fantasy is affecting your sexlife.

my girlfriend doesn't know about my fetish/fantasies and I have no plans of ever telling her. (this is a whole other discussion I know)

Whenever we're having sex I catch myself thinking about the scenes on here or any of the other sites I visit. While just having sex with her should be more than enough to get me off. I know most guys say this about their girls, but my girlfriend is really hot and on top of that very active in the bedroom, yet I prefer the fantasy over the real thing.

When I was growing up, I can only slightly ever remember looking at "real" porn. 99% of the time I looked at these websites. How was this for you guys?

I know this might be a little out there, but I'm afraid sometimes I'm too involved in these fantasies. I guess the problem is that "sex" doesn't get me as "excited" as these fantasies do.

Would love to hear your 2 cents on it. thanks

HI BOB - -

IF YOU LOOK AT THE DATE ON THE POST I COPIED AND PASTED BELOW YOU'LL SEE I MADE
THIS POST ALMOST 2 YEARS AGO ON THIS WEBSITE. THE TOPIC YOU'RE PRESENTLY INTRODUCING HAS BEEN AROUND FOR QUITE SOME TIME AND DRAWN A LOT OF INTEREST OVER THE YEARS. IT WOULD CERTAINLY BE HELPFUL TO YOU TO READ SOME OF THESE OLD FORUMS ON THIS TOPIC . . . THERE HAS BEEN RATHER HEATED DEBATE PRO AND CON FROM MANY PARTICIPANTS ON THIS WEBSITE. THE LONG AND SHORT OF MY OPINION IS THIS: ONE CAN ENJOY THE SLEEPY FANTASY (OR FETISH AS SOME LIKE TO CALL IT) WITHOUT LETTING IT IN ANYWAY INTEFERE WITH ONE'S NORMAL SEX LIFE . . . . I THINK THAT I, PERSONALLY, HAVE MANAGED TO ACCOMPLISH THAT OVER THE YEARS IN MY FAMILY AND MY 3 DAUGHTERS ARE WHAT I CONSIDER TANGIBLE AND LIVING PROOF OR EVIDENCE TO THAT EFFECT -- I.E., IF MY SEX LIFE HAD BEEN ADVERSELY AFFECTED BY MY SLEEPYFANTASY, WOULD I EVEN BE LIKELY TO HAVE FATHERED 3 DAUGHTERS??? I THINK NOT!!! ON THE OTHER HAND THERE HAVE BEEN OTHERS WHO HAVE POSTED IN SOME OF THESE RELATED FORUMS TO THE EFFECT THAT THEY PREFER THEIR FANTASY TO REAL SEX WITH A REAL FEMALE . . . . TO ME THAT IS SAD AND NOT A GOOD THING. THE SLEEPYFANTASY SHOULD BE A SIDELINE NOT THE MAIN ATTRACTION IN ONE'S SEX LIFE. HOW ELSE ARE CHILDREN EVER GOING TO BE CONCEIVED AND BORN IN THIS WORLD? CHECK OUT THE OTHER RELATED FORUMS . . . . AND WELCOME TO THE CLUB . . .PP11

Post Date: Oct 25, 2009 01:42 AM
Somewhere else on this website I have previously posted the information that I am married and have three beautiful daughters in their twenties. I haven't heard many of the rest of this audience saying similar things. I wonder how many of you who read this are married with children? I think it makes a difference, a big difference in this "fetish" discussion, whether one is happily married with children. And I like to call it a "fantasy", not a fetish. "Fetish" reminds me of something abnormal, like a man putting on women's clothing, or worse, enjoying child pornography. My wife knows I fantasize about Wonder Woman, and I'm telling the truth when I say, she thinks it's positively silly. She told me recently "You're a grown man. Put away childish things." I believe looking at comic books for superheroine KO's, unconscious carries, and bondage has the potential to be quite harmful to the individual -- mainly if the individual allows the fantasy to become a replacement for normal sex, with a normal female, leading to babies being born. I believe the first and foremost reason we have sex organs is to procreate the species. To do that, is to be "normal". Recreational use of our sex organs (rather than use for procreation) is OK only so far as the recreational activities do not become a total substitute for a normal sex life leading to children being born. Those who prefer their fantasies (or fetishes) to the real act with a real woman are doing serious harm to themselves, their loved ones, and society.

Modified on: 2009-10-26 19:31:42

P.S. HERE IS THE URL FOR ONE OF THE FORUMS FROM 2009 ON THIS TOPIC:

http://www.sleepycomics.com/board/viewtopic.php?t=16

ENJOY!!
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Thanks Paul for your insights.

I agree with most of them. But I'm wondering how this is for other members too. Not a lot have shared their personals experiences in the other topic, just their "opinion". I'm curious to see if I'm the only one struggling with this.

I'm a bit suprised that you did not mention the other forum - - the one from two years ago - - that deals with this topic . . . It's the one I put up in my previous blog for you to check out. I'm entering it again, for the second time because it has nearly a dozen responses from various members of our little club all responding to the same issue, the very issue you are now bringing up. . . and I'll go on record as saying most appear to be very happy with their fantasy, and show little indication of "struggling" with it. Do yourself a favor and check it out and let us all know what you think about it, even if it is from 2009.

http://www.sleepycomics.com/board/viewtopic.php?t=16

How is this fetish affecting my sex like? It IS my sex like Lol. But seriously folks, almost every time I had sex with the wife I would need to 'add' the icing to the cake' to have en enjoyable experience. Now that I'm single most mental fantasies either are peril related or romantic fantasies that have the lady willingly participating in a fun 'play peril'. Being unconscious, 'out', enduring the villain's attack on her...all good stuff.

I don't have a sex life. Only a long-distance girlfriend.

I know I have had girlfriends and a ex wife who would roll talk my fantasy with me and as she did a strange thing would happen. She would become the fantasy all of the time. My wife would even dress in a sexy Bra and Panties knee high boots a mask and wrist wear. She one time walked down the stairs and pranced confidently to me sat on my lap with her arms around me. The black eye shadow behind the mask created yet another fetish. Then she would pretend to be distracted turn with her long red hair whipping around. I would press the cloth over her exposed small mouth and nose and after 7 or 8 seconds she would start breathing deeply and slowly go limp. I would lay her back over my legs to protrude her chest. She had slender wrists and hands so I would hold her limp wrists bent which is another fetish of mine. Then the epic cradle carry in front of the mirror . You can guess by this time I was so weak I would almost pass out myself. But this would happen about once a month or so. It gives you something to look forward to.I miss her so! Another girlfriend would talk as we were having sex. It was like this." What ? Do you want to put me to sleep? Yes? With Chloroform? I would say how? She would say "Pour it on a cloth,hold it over my face,watch me go to sleep! I would say how? She would say CHLOROFORM! That would usually do it. So many women ,when they are comfortable knowing what you want will share and bring your fantasy to life.