Hi,

I'm just wondering who where has told anybody about their "special interest" ? :)

I'll go first:

- Nobody

I've never remotely had the balls to tell anybody. And when any evidence had been found I've always managed to get away from it.

Anybody else here more courageous then I am ? :)

No one. And I'll never tell anyone as well.

Anybody ever found something?

No. I've never told anybody that I know face to face about it. The only ones I've told are you people who read these comments.

But my wife knows about it. She learned about it from my behavior over the years we've been married. And she cooperates with me. She never been as into it as I am but she goes along with it, thankfully. She's been my superheroine for a long time. She never initiates it, that is she never says anything like, "Are you going to knock me out tonight?" But she cooperates and plays the game with me.

Bobko, what do you mean when you ask, Anybody ever found something?

No one and hopefully it stays that way.

My girlfriend knows, although she probably doesn't know the full extent of it. I've shown her a couple of videos before though and she's into it and likes to play along. I think it'd be a bummer to be in a serious relationship and not be able to share it with my SO.

My wife knows because before we were even married she found a stack of old Wonder Woman comic books in my closet. At first she thought I was an old books collector, which I am, sort of, but eventually she noticed that most of my books had bondage, arm carries, and head ko's in them. She put 2 and 2 together and figured it out. My brother knows, because I've had this passion since we were kids sleeping in the same bedroom. My mom knew, (I'm fairly certain of this but she never mentioned it once as I was growing up . . . not once, not even a hint). My first wife found out in the sixth year of our marriage, I had successfully hidden it from her all that time, and she asked me for a divorce 6 months after she found out . . . though I believe it was for a lot more than simply this, but I believe it was one factor among several. I wish now I had been upfront with her, like I have been with my second wife. Some women, especially significant others, tend to see this as pornography. It's not, of course -- there is no frontal nudity, or explicit sex acts portrayed. Still, bondage and arm carries are viewed suspiciously by any wife prone to jealousy.

I don't run around telling everyone about it ... but I have told a couple of very close friends, and a couple of therapists, and my last girlfriend. The girlfriend got into it because I was so into it. She just liked turning me on, and she "fainted" as well as any professional actress or artist's rendering I've ever seen.

I feel bad for the people who say they'll never tell, that they'll carry their secret to the grave.

When I've told very close guy friends about it, they've just shrugged it off. They're not into it, but they're into their own things.

Of course, my fetish is pretty specifically geared toward fainting -- I'm not really into fantasies of physically knocking a girl out, or gassing or chloroforming her. I suppose that may seem like it makes a difference, but I don't think it does. For a long time I was just as ashamed of my fetish as some of you describe.

My hope is that those who swear they'll never tell get the experience of sharing it with someone. Even if it's a therapist. Because walking around feeling ashamed of something you didn't choose, and can't help, is terrible. And totally unnecessary.

Of course, you have to choose an appropriate person. If the person knows you, and knows you would never want to harm a woman in real life -- that it's all about the fantasy and the imagery -- the reaction will probably just be, "So what?"

It's nothing worth taking to your grave, guys. Really.

You're only as sick as your secrets ...

/soapbox

Mwah, I don't even feel really bad about not telling anyone. Maybe when I get older I will, but now, in my 20's, I have no intention of sharing this with others. And I've never felt hard or down about it.

I forgot to mention that one of the ways my wife started to be aware of this was she also found my Wonder Woman comic books. Also she was aware that I loved the Lynda Carter TV Wonder Woman and Yvonne Craig's Batgirl. One night we watched the Avengers. Emma Peel got chloroformed. Later that night we acted out the fantasy of that and I had her to act it out just like we had seen it on TV. The episode was titled "The Bird Who Knew Too Much." But I never was brave enough to tell my wife about this directly. I just kinda worked it in a somewhat slow and subtle manner over the years. And it has worked smoothly for the most part.

I don't see how any man married or otherwise could resist proceeding with this or how he could keep it from his wife or girl friend, that is trying to get her somehow to play the role of his superheroine......